Da Rules

Nutmeg.gay is a place to be yourself and to be part of community. We want to be a good place to post. So, we have a few guidelines:

  • Just post: In the legacy of good posting forums, the most important rule is to just post. Posts can be silly or serious, effortful or not!

  • This is not an LGBTQIA-exclusive space! We welcome cis-het people here too! The URL nutmeg.gay is just a cute URL the sysadmin already owned.

  • Anyone 18+ is allowed, but this is focused on New Haven, CT: This was a forum created to meet the needs of community in New Haven, Connecticut, USA. Anyone from the world is allowed, but hey, you're talkin to a bunch of people who live in one city.

  • Avoid pornography and hookups: Pornography draws a lot of legal scrutiny and difficulties, as do apps where people meet for sex. We don't want your ID, and we have no way of verifying someones age or date of birth. You can be sexy and post about sex, but please refrain from posting naked photos of yourself or using this board to find sexual partners. Material will be removed at moderator discretion.

  • Don't be an asshole: We do remove or ban posts with language or content that is harmful. This especially includes posts demeaning to marginalized people or minorities, posts mocking tragedies or abuse, or posts which are abusive. We want to curate a good environment to post, and so we don't allow for wiggle room for irony or reappropriation regarding bigotry or slurs. We have no way of gauging someones positionality or intent.

  • This isn't a page for interpersonal drama. This site is just not a good medium to air accusations or allegations about other people. Please use other sites for that.

  • For now, please use English for most discussions. When Facebook expanded to Myanmar despite having almost no moderators who could speak Burmese, they contributed to a genocide. Currently, our only moderator speaks English fluently, with very weak Spanish and Chinese skills. Because we can't moderate conversations that aren't in English, please avoid long conversations in languages other than English.

  • No rules lawyering. Don't be an asshole, do unto others, etc. Nutmeg.gay exists to be a good bulletin board to post on. We'll remove posts that make this a bad place to post.